... BREAKING UP TO WAKE UP ...
In their transmission entitled
"2004: Families of the Heart," the Recons-Group mentioned/channeled that people all over the world are soon to begin liberating themselves from the density and duty that has seems to accompany being in marriage relationships that have run their course. Now is a time when people are beginning to enact what was spoken about last August, when the energy was beginning to percolate on the planet and new activations were in the wind.
They said to us:
"The nuclear family continues to explode. We do not mean to sound facetious here, but a little humor often
serves to soften a blow. We speak, of course, about your definition of "family" that derives itself from connection through marriage, bloodline, political or religious tradition, and ancestry.
In truth, these elements do have power, and will continue to hold power. But their value exists primarily
within the implicate order that they have provided for your life in 3D. You might think of them as givens or starting equations that make up the "rules" for your Grand Game. As such, they have served you well. But, by no means, were they meant to dictate your entire physical journey.
For every implicate order there must also be a voluntary commitment to nourish and support it. Where there is
no conscious choice, there is no genuine love. There is only a sense of obligation and heaviness. Though these qualities do provide a rudimentary sense of security and grounding, they often stand directly in the way of a person moving beyond his heritage into a whole new area of achievement and personal realization.
It does take a village to raise a child. And it does take a village to meet the emotional and sociological
needs of those who live in society. Humanity is getting to the place where you can no longer pretend otherwise."
The first thing we would want to say to you is...
We're not suggesting that your relationships are over. Rather, we are sensing that, for many of you, the MARRIAGE DEFINITION has completed its purpose for now. The whole institution known as "marriage," in most cases, hangs around the necks of humanity like an anvil..... keeping a multitude of beings
from expanding their wings and flying, the way they need to be able to do. Institutions are generally created to incarcerate criminals or crazy people. And many people enter into marriage because, on some level, they don't trust themselves or each other to make free-will choices. They feel crazy at times, and they long for someone to hold them. This is not true of all, but many.
Multidimensional living involves living in the moment. It also involves seeing everything and everyone as an aspect of you. Each moment becomes a gateway into a multitude of possible realities....... on many levels of experience. Attach two or more moments together, and it slows a person down incredibly.
It causes you to become bogged down in "past" and "future" consciousness..... rather than being fully present in the NOW. And then, to say to one other person..... "I will be with you for my whole life, and no other"...... dips the whole thing in concrete and sinks it to the bottom of the ocean. And really, it's kind of ridiculous, because no one can say for sure where he or she will be from one week to another...... let alone your whole life.
And so..... little by little, the institution of "marriage" is staging a BREAKOUT. The inmates are escaping! And, what's more..... many of them are escaping TOGETHER....... letting go of old "ties," so that new connections can be designed and implemented. For many people, the idea of "divorce" could be a gateway into a whole new connection to the same person. But then again, it might not. That is not for us to say. It really is not for anyone to say! The future belongs to the future.
This "breakup to wake up" situation will be happening, more and more, all over the planet in the next 3-5 years. We are moving from a 3D way of living and thinking to a multidimensional one. People need to be free to create a space of expansion and growth that doesn't tie them to each other's process and bog them down.
For example, a husband may be experiencing a sense of resistance to working in a particular environment. He can't quite "get it together"..... but he doesn't know what else to do, because the family needs money and his position as "breadwinner" requires him to do what his energy can't quite do. What liberates energy is being near people and things that stir up excitement and reconnect us to the issues and themes our souls have been working on for many lifetimes.
When we're near that kind of stimulation, we begin to "buzz"...... and the cells in our bodies begin to vibrate. The physical body is a wondrous thing. It's like a geiger counter. When we get near things that connect us to the BIG PICTURE--our cells in the body start to percolate, like a coffee pot. When we stay embedded in mundane crap, and cling to each other for security and "support," the Geiger counter goes silent...... and we clearly see that we have lost our way.
The presence of children in two people's lives still perpetuates the idea of "commitment." This situation will eventually change as well. There will come a time when the actual "commitment" will be minimal (till the kids get weened)...... and then both sides of the interaction will be freed up to go where they wish and do what they choose.
If the reader wishes to imagine into what that kind of society will be like, he or she may want to take a look at "The Imagine Nation" series..... which is just our way of sketching through what society might be like if kids were treated like equals right from the start.
For this period of history, kids still serve as "seat belts" for people who are going through energy acceleration. Without them, some people would simply choose to die. Many are not prepared to let go of their "security blankets" and reach for the stars. And so...... everything is perfect, as the layers of fear are peeled away. The kids require 3D stability to some degree, and that keeps our feet on the ground, even as our minds and hearts begin to vibrate furiously with excitement.
At one point in time, two people may have promised (before God and witnesses) that they will stay together for their whole lives. This promise was said to be "sacred," but how can it be? How could something that pulls you away from full contact with yourself and your energy be sacred? How can someone say TODAY what he or she will be doing TOMORROW?
If two people find that they need to separate, in order to "pull themselves together"...... it can be a relatively painless proposition. All you need to do is let go of the "promises" and begin re-decorating the premises.
Over the course of three months....... two people can begin by laying out a program for sensibly and responsibly taking care of their children. They can design a program of time schedules and financial support that fills the gaps and meets the needs. If the wife is going to temporarily return to work, the husband will need to make some time to be present with the kids while she is away. Or, another person could be brought in to help out if both decide to work. You can contact a local college and post a notice to make this offer. A young (or even an older) person could help out in exchange for room and board. The times are hard, and living situations can be difficult.
When going through this shift, most people find that physically separating their residences re-enforces the message that "we are free from our marriage vows"..... and injects new energy into the situation. In the beginning, that energy may come in the form of FEAR, as one or both partners begin to imagine all sorts of things about what may come next. Both of them may need to begin separating their finances...... and deciding how much each needs to contribute to the KIDDIE FUND...... (in time and money) to care for the children.
The rest of the money is theirs to use as they will. One may need to help the other as he/she begins to get on his/her feet. If you are creative and in joy...... your incomes should immediately begin to expand. That's what happens when you're in joy. If not, your environment and resources will accurately reflect your
consciousness (or lack thereof)..... without also inhibiting your partner's life and opportunities. This would also include social involvements, sexual expression, and any other needs that have hitherto been stifled.
Let yourselves breathe! Be single and young again...... and reach out to each other - for love, togetherness, fun - as often as you feel the urge. This way, your relationship will be more VOLUNTARY and GENUINE....... instead of COMPULSORY and DUTY-FILLED.
Most programs of "marriage counseling" still operate in a capacity of loyalty and dedication to the marriage concept. In truth, the institution of marriage is more for the benefit of society than most people. It provides a means of assigning responsibility and duty to the care of children, while incarcerating them, and tying them to parents that may not even come close to matching their IQ and their sense of living. This will eventually change.
The Reconnections have some specific thoughts about what is underneath this:
"Any successful "marriage" - whether it be a merge of business partners, living partners, project participants, players of team sports, or whatever - needs to be built upon common goals, common circumstance, and a common perspective. When your sense of commonality departs, the marriage is over - whether or not the official partnership has been dissolved. In some cases today, what is being called a "marriage union" in
your society energetically bears resemblance to a person who has died, but has refused to fall down.
There is a reason that "God and Government" need to be separate in society. For the last 2000 years, religion has largely been a divider of peoples, not a unifier of them. That is because your relationship to God/Goddess/All That Is was designed to be a personal connection, not a corporate one. This has always been true of marriage as well. In fact, successful marriages - ones that are kept vital and current - will eventually become the only government you will ever need.
Soon, humanity will understand that "monogamy" or "long-term commitment" is not something that can be decided in advance. Neither does it have anything to do with sexual exclusivity. Genuine "commitment" is a spontaneous perpetuation of comfort and peace that two (or more) individuals grow into, almost without knowing it is happening.
Having freed yourselves from religious constraints and "till death do us part" promises, humans will
recognize that all time is NOW, and all worthy connections and collaborations must have in-the-moment tonal resonance in order to do you any good. You can't decide to do things just because you "should." That no longer works. In truth, it never did.
The heart is no longer just a storehouse for sentiment and fond memory. It has become a cauldron, wherein powerful mixtures of Multiversal Mind and Personal Passion are blended and refined to produce the necessary transmutation that will enable you all to make the leap to 4D.
... More about Relationships ...
- There is no Other -
Awakening to the truth of perfect Unity, means to awaken from the dream of a personal self and personal others to the realization that there is no other. Many spiritual seekers have had glimpses of the absolute unity of all existence, but few are capable of or willing to live up to the many challenging implications inherent in that revelation. The revelation of perfect unity, that there is no other, is a realization of the ultimate impersonality of all that seems to be so very personal. Applying this realization to the arena of personal relationships is something that most seekers find extremely challenging, and is the number one reason why so many seekers never come completely to rest in the freedom of the Self Absolute.
Inherent in the revelation of perfect unity is the realization that there is no personal me, no personal other, and therefore no personal relationships. Coming to terms with the challenging implications of this stunning realization is something that few people are willing to do. Because realizing the true impersonality of all that seems so personal, challenges every aspect of the illusion of a separate, personal self. It challenges the entire structure of personal relationships which are born of needs, wants, and expectations. It is in the arena of personal relationships that the illusion of a separate self clings most tenaciously and insidiously. Indeed, there is nothing that derails more spiritual seekers than the grasping at and attaching to personal relationships.
The revelation of perfect unity reveals the true impersonality of all relationships. The ego always interprets "impersonal" as meaning cold, distant, and aloof. However, "impersonal" simply means not personal, or void of a separate me and a separate you. The mind cannot comprehend of a relationship without separate entities. Much as a character in a dream cannot comprehend that all other dream characters are simply manifestations of the same dreamer. Yet when the dreamer awakens, he instantly comprehends that the entire dream, and all the characters in it, were none other than projections of his own self. In the dream there is the appearance of separate, personal entities in relationship, but upon awakening one comprehends the impersonal (non-separate) Self that is the source of all appearances.
To deeply inquire into the question "Who is another?" can lead to the direct experience that the other is one's own Self - that in fact there is no other. However, I have seen that for most seekers, even this direct experiential revelation is not enough to transform the painfully personal ways they relate. To come to this profound transformation requires a very deep investigation into the implications inherent within the experiential revelation that there is no other. It is in the daily living of these implications that most seekers fail. Why? Because, fundamentally, most people want to remain separate and in control. Simply put, most people want to keep dreaming that they are special, unique, and separate, more than they want to wake up to the perfect unity of an Unknown which leaves no room from any separation from the whole.
There is a powerful tendency in most spiritual seekers to avoid probing deeply into the implications inherent within profound spiritual experience and revelation, because these implications are always threatening to the sense of a separate self, or ego. It is the implications inherent within profound spiritual revelation that demand the transformation of the apparent individual.
Inherent within the revelation of perfect unity is the realization that there is no other. The implications of this realization reveal that in order to manifest that unity in the relative world, one must renounce the dream of being a separate self seeking to obtain anything through relationship with another. Indeed, personal relationship appears to happen in the relative world, but in reality, all appearances simply arise as temporary manifestations of a unified whole. In the relative world these appearances are in relationship, but not as separate entities. Rather, they are the play of the one Self projecting itself as apparent entities in relationship to one another.
As long as you identify yourself with the projection of separateness, you will continue to deny that you are the Source of all projections. When you truly and absolutely awaken to this fact, and comprehend the overwhelming implications inherent within this awakening, you will continually experience that all apparently personal relationships are in truth nothing other than the play of your Self. To realize that the personal me is an illusion born of false identification with the body, thoughts, and emotions, brings a profound sense of freedom. This is fundamentally the realization of emptiness, of what you are not. But contained within the realization of emptiness (formlessness) is also the realization of what you ARE.
In the most absolute sense you ARE this conscious emptiness which is the source of all appearances (existence). But you are the appearance as well. Not just one part of the appearance called "me", but all of it, the entire whole. This is the challenge, to let your view get this vast. To let your view get so vast that your identity disappears. Then you realize that there is no other, and there is nothing personal going on.
Contrary to the way the ego will view such a realization, it is in reality the birth of true love. A love which is free of all boundaries and fear. To the ego such uncontaminated love is unbearable in its intimacy. When there is no clear separating boundaries and nothing to gain the ego becomes disinterested, angry, or frightened. In a love where there is no
other there is nowhere to hide, no one to control, and nothing to gain. It is the coming together of appearances in the beautiful dance of the SELF called Love.
To the seeker who is sincere, an experiential glimpse of this possibility is not enough. If you are sincere you will find it within yourself to go far beyond any glimpse. You will find within your Self the courage to let go of the known and dive deeply into the Unknown heart of a mystery that calls you only to itself. ("The Heart of Relationship," 1999, downloaded from www.adyashanti.org, 2004.)